Nobody is perfect. Every single person has flaws. You have to learn to accept that. No matter how hard you try to reach perfection it will never happen.
That is hard for me. I try so hard to be flawless. I have made so many mistakes in my past and I don’t want to repeat them. But I often times try so hard that I run myself into the ground. I become exhausted and feel like I cannot keep going.
I feel guilty at times if my house isn’t perfect. If I don’t make it to the gym on time, or even if dinner does not come out the way I was hoping. What do these things have to do with making mistakes?
Often times we try to reach “perfection ” because we are trying to run away from our pasts. We never want to return to those horrible times. To those horrendous decisions that we made. But quite honestly, you are going to make mistakes. That is part of being human. It is how you handle yourself afterward that matters.
You will never be perfect. But that does not mean that you cannot be a good person. Learn from those mistakes and remember that you are going to make even more. Let them help you build a better life. Not a ” perfect ” one.
I’ve always envisioned what it was like to be in love. When I was younger I dreamed of being so entangled with a man that it would hurt to part. That our souls would become one. And that he would be my life.
I’ve been in those relationships in the past. The ones where you feel this “chemistry” that no one can touch. You couldn’t imagine being without that person. Even for a second.
Then those relationships took a downward spiral. I wasn’t looking at all of the red flags. I was only going by the feeling of lust that I had for those men. I ignored all of the warning signs that should have steered me away.
It’s dangerous to not know who you are outside of a relationship. It’s toxic when you cannot fathom life without a person that is clearly not good for you. It surely will not lead to a healthy relationship or marriage.
Love takes a lot more than just “chemistry”. It takes hard work, determination, and communication. Every relationship will have its rough patches. It’s about whether or not you can make it out stronger and together.
Emotion is natural. Anger, sadness, grief, all of it. Yet many of us grew up believing that emotion was weakness. That we needed to hide what we were feeling.
Emotion is part of being human. It doesn’t make you “weak” or “sensitive”. It shows that you are not afraid of your feelings.
Don’t ever apologize for something that is simply natural. You should never feel like you can’t express yourself. Keeping everything bottled up will only lead to misery.
Cry when your heart breaks, scream into your pillow when your angry, and take your time grieving. Don’t think about who may be judging you. At the end of the day you have to be able to live with yourself.
I remember waking up one morning feeling this pit in my stomach. I had lost everything. My home, my family, and the future I had envisioned. I just couldn’t imagine how my life could get better. I had absolutely no support system. Everyone that had promised to be there for me had turned a blind eye. I was completely alone. Not only was I drowning in depression but I had severe PTSD. I could not see a light at the end of the tunnel.
I was fourteen and pregnant. I had to do what was right for my unborn child and myself. I could no longer live in the dangerous situation I was in. But by speaking up I was risking everything. I was about to be all alone with a child in tow.
How I could pick myself up and move on from that moment? I asked myself that question on a daily basis. I had no idea how to better my life. I was angry and hurt. I can tell you that before I started making those positive decisions to better my life I made plenty of bad ones.
Eventually there were people who stepped up and showed me what a positive life could look like. Something that I could get excited about. I finally had a future to look forward to. I never gave up and to this day I am still battling. I now have a beautiful life. But everyday I keep pushing to give my kids and I everything that we deserve.
I think about all of the negativity that I grew up with. I want so much more than that. I want my kids to experience what it’s like to have a healthy life. I want a healthy life. I will always fight for that. At one point I was a teen mom in foster care. I had absolutely no hope left. But one day I finally got the courage to start fighting. If I hadn’t, I have no clue where I would be today.
People often times see the trauma they’ve endured as an excuse. An excuse to blame their mistakes on. They will blame all of the bad decisions they’ve made on their past.
It’s easy to be the victim. At one time you were. And that’s okay. But you cannot always be the victim. A bright future is ahead if you are willing to fight. If you are willing to change your mentality.
Envision how beautiful your future can be. How you can take all of that pain and turn it into something incredible. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are worthy!! Just go out and prove it.
We are all going through some crazy times. Watching everything unfold has been unnerving to say the least. The shelves are cleared out, there are people dying, and most of us are stuck at home. We are all wondering at this point, when will it end?
I’m sure a majority of us were not expecting to ever live through something like this. But in these dark times it is import to all stand together. If we stand united it will be over before we know it.
This is not a time to act selfishly. Be there for you neighbors. Stay home if your sick. And most importantly keep a positive attitude. Not just for yourself, but for your family and friends.
We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.” – Maya Angelou
We all search for happiness. But what most people don’t realize is that happiness is not constant. It is small moments here and there. So do not feel defeated. You will make it through and you will feel happiness. It just takes patience. ❤️
I remember being in foster care like it was yesterday. I was so terrified when I got placed in my first home. I had no idea what to expect. I was broken, lost, and traumatized. My parents had betrayed my trust and I could not possibly trust again. How could I??
This is how so many kids feel when they enter the system. They just need an adult to step in and care for them. To show them how it is to truly be loved. Their parents may love them, but for some period of time they will not be with their kids. They have to better themselves before their babies can be with them again. So it becomes the job of the foster parent to be there for those amazing children who are feeling lost.
Though it maybe tough at times. Many of these kids do not want to be close to their foster parents. They are most likely counting down the days until they get they get to go home. Their frustrations will be taken out on you, simply because they have no one else at the time.
Its important to stick through this. Many of these children will not have positive roll models in their lives. You might be the only one. Show them some of the positive aspects of life that they may have been missing with their parents.
Becoming a foster parent isn’t about the money. It is about showing these children that it is possible to have a good life. Setting a good example for them so that they can hopefully use it in their futures. And most importantly showing them love ( something that they really need ).
We’ve all had those day. You feel defeated. Like nothing in your life could ever get better. Everything seems to be going wrong. You question if your life will always be stuck in this limbo.
Its important to remember that this to shall pass. I know that’s really cheesy, but its completely accurate. Everyone goes through difficult times in their life. How we deal with these challenges is what leads to things looking up, or these times dragging on.
Think about how you could make changes in your life to better your situation. Whether it be finding a job with a more steady income, going back to college, or taking some parenting classes. You have to work towards the positive outcome you are looking for. Nothing will fall into your lap. It takes hard work and dedication to make it through those trying times.
Though it is hard to find motivation, you have to remind yourself that better things are yet to come. Just stay positive and keep working towards your goals. One day you will look back and think about the changes that lead you to where you are currently. You will thank yourself. Do not give up.